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The ‘Patriot’ who Must Win No Matter What.

Competitiveness has both positive and negative qualities. Competitiveness is not negative in essence. It is an important natural part of human behaviour and is necessary for progress. But on the negative side, it can be warped into aggression and repugnant … Continue reading

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Tough Enough

Soldiers, of course, are required to be tough. Strong and tough like Rambo. No-one must be able to get the better of them physically. As if we were still fighting hand-to-hand combat, and did not rely nowadays on sophisticated weapons. … Continue reading

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Two-dimensional Men

In my last blog, I wrote about how boys are shamed into either hiding or suppressing some of their natural human emotions. And I asked the question: Do we raise our sons to be unemotional in order for them to … Continue reading

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Suckered into Sacrifice?

Are we, perhaps unwittingly, training our sons to be fodder for war? Continuing the debate from my first three posts: If, in our evolutionary past, society believed that traditional war was inevitable, then it needed all its men to have … Continue reading

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Be a Man, my Son

In this post I want to start to look at how we may be unconsciously and unintentionally raising our sons for the trauma of warfare, and to be capable of killing. In my last post, I suggested a list of … Continue reading

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